What Life Is All About

 Life isn't about keeping score. It's not about how many friends you have. Or how many people call you.Or how accepted or unaccepted you are. Not about if you have plans this weekend. Or if you're alone.It isn't about who you're dating,who you used to date, how many people you've dated,or if you haven't been with anyone at all.It isn't about who your family are or how much money they have.Or what kind of car you drive.Or where you're sent to school.
    It's not about how beautiful or ugly you are.Or what clothes you wear,what shoes you have on,or what kind of music you listen to.It's not about your hair is blonde,red,black,brown,or green.Or if your skin is too light or too dark.
    It's not about what grades you get,how smart you are,how smart everyone else thinks you are,or how smart standardized tests say you are.Or if this teacher likes you,or if this guy/girl likes you.Or what clubs you're in,or how good you are at "your' sport.It's not about representing your whole being on a piece of paper and seeing who will accept the "written you."
    But life is about who you love and who you hurt.It's about who you make happy or unhappy purposefully.It's about keeping or betraying trust.It's about friendship,used as sanctity,or as a weapon.It's about what you say and mean,maybe hurtful,maybe heartening.About starting rumors and contributing to petty gossip.It's about what judgments you pass and why.And who your judgments are spread to.
    But most of all, it's about using your life to touch or poison other people's hearts in such a way that could never occur alone.Only you choose the way these hearts are affected and those choices are what life is all about.
    人生是一场计分赛，不在于你有多少朋友，有多少人给你打电话，或有多少人接受或拒绝你；不在于这个周末你是否计划去做点什么，是否孤身一人；不在于你正在、曾经和谁约会或与多少人约会过，或者你是否从未与人约会；不在于你出身什么家庭，你家是贫穷还是富有，你开什么车，上什么学校。
    人生不在于你的长相是美是丑；不在于你穿什么衣服，穿什么鞋，听什么音乐；不在于你的头发是金色、红色、黑色、褐色还是绿色，你的肤色是黑还是白。
     人生不在于你的学习成绩，你有多么聪明，别人认为你多么聪明，或智力测验说你多么聪明；不在于这位老师是否喜欢你，这个男孩或女孩是否喜欢你；不在于你加入什么俱乐部，或某项运动你如何擅长；不在于一张试卷上你和表现及谁会接受那个“书面的你”。
     然而，人生在于你爱谁和伤害了谁；在于你有意给谁带来了快乐或悲伤；在于你有没有背叛别人 的信任；在于你是否将友谊当作圣洁之物还是一种工具；在于你说出口的话是伤害他人还温暖他人；在于你是否散布谣言，为别人的闲言碎语提供谈资；在于你作出什么样的判断和为什么如此判断，以及将你的判断说给什么样的人听。
      但最重要的， 人生在于你是用你的人生去感动他人的心灵，还是同时无法避免地带给他人伤害。如何影响这些心灵在于你的选择，而这些选择就是你人生的全部的意义。