Commit Intensely and Joyfully to Everything You Do
Do you feel bored and stuck in a rut? Is work drudgery? If so, you are spending far too much time bemoaning your fate and how the universe is not cooperating with your desires. Be present with and in your current situation. You will discover that there is more there than meets the eye. There are nuances that you were never aware of until you gave them the benefit of your full attention. When you do this, you have no time to be bored, and, paradoxically, your work will transform itself in ways you could never have conceived of, and will propel you to greater fulfillment.

You Can Create Miracles—So Do It
Let’s say you’re all dressed up, it starts raining, and you don’t have an umbrella. A cab pulls up right where you are to discharge a passenger, and you take it. Do you describe what happened as a “coincidence”? If so, you have blown a powerful tool for bringing all manner of good into your life. Instead, recognize that what happened was a “miracle” and celebrate it as such. You allowed it to happen. The more you celebrate such “miracles,” the more they will appear in your life. Maybe you will not be able to make a specific miracle happen—such as the 4:15 p.m. train’s coming ten minutes late just so you can catch it—but you will be able to live a life in which a steady stream of such miracles enriches your experience.

Remember That Like Attracts Like
Do you know someone who is constantly complaining? Who finds fault with people and things all the time? Who sucks your energy and leaves you feeling drained? Do you want to hang around with him or her? Odds are, sooner or later you will want to move on. Now think about what kind of feelings you evoke in others. Consciously be sensitive to others and try to elevate their level of consciousness. Don’t do this by being preachy and telling them that they “should” do this or that; do it by raising your own level of energy and recognizing what’s best in others. As you become imbued with this habit, the most marvelous, upbeat people will float into your life and elevate you even further.

Being Is More Important Than Doing
A man I know wanted desperately to become a CEO and was ready to do what it took. Family was a distraction, and he resented the demands they placed on him. He attended his daughter’s soccer games but spent most of the time making phone calls and replying to messages on his BlackBerry. He thought he was being a good father, until he overheard his daughter on the phone, telling a friend, “My dad doesn’t care about me—he just wants others to think he is a caring father. He sat through the whole game playing with his phone and didn’t even notice I scored a goal.” Who you are being will always show through sooner or later. Remember this Ralph Waldo Emerson quote: “Who you are speaks so loudly I cannot hear what you are saying.”

Bounce Back Like a Daruma Doll
A daruma doll in Japanese Buddhist tradition has no arms or legs and is heavily weighted. Knock it over, and it springs right back; you cannot keep it down. Keep that as a vision. As long as you are in the human predicament, stuff will happen to you. You cannot prevent getting knocked down, but you can get right back up again. And you do this by accepting what is and asking, “Where do I go from here?” No complaints, no wailing, just a willingness to learn what can be learned, and a readiness to then do what must be done.

Change Your Focus to Serving Others
Notice when you believe you are the center of the universe. No matter what happens, you think only in terms of what impact it has on you. But living predominantly in a “me-centered” world guarantees that you will experience dejection, anxiety, boredom, and all the other things that make life unhappy. By contrast, think consciously about being of service to others, and your life will flower.

A professor who used to bemoan the “stupidity” of the students in his class decided to change his self-centered focus. He started being grateful to them because they worked as waitresses and bartenders to pay the tuition that paid his salary that maintained his family. He began to see it as his task to get students to appreciate the beauty in his field, not theirs to provide him with intellectual stimulation. This led him to pay more attention to the design of his lectures. He won several teaching honors and was eventually offered a more rewarding position.

Let It Go
Watch a baby drinking his milk contentedly, then take his bottle away. His face gets red, he screams, and there is no doubt that he is angry. Now give him his bottle back. In seconds he is back to his contented, gurgling self. He experiences his anger, but then he lets it go! Our problem is that we don’t let things go. We harbor resentments, slights, memories, and mental junk from years or decades. Drop that mess. Let it go. That, by itself, leaves room for joy to manifest.

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