3. Expectations:The fastest way to get back to love in any relationship is to want nothing.Period. Try it. No one is responsible for your happiness or anything else, unless expressly agreed to.
　　3. 期望:在一切感情关系中,想要重回爱河最快的方式莫过于一无所求。仅此而已,别无其他。试试吧!没有人需要对你的快乐或其他什么负责,除非他/她清楚地表达过此类想法。

　　4. Integrity:Do what you say you’re going to do, when you say you’re going to do it, as often as humanly possible. And don’t BS yourself. Nobody trusts a flake, nor does anyone want their vulnerable hearts to be in the care of one. If you love and respect someone, ACT like it!
　　4. 诚实:当你说你打算要做什么的时候,你就要尽自己的一切可能,做到言出必行。不要对自己胡说八道。没有人会信任一个反复无常的人,也不会有人希望把他们脆弱的心灵托付给言而无信的人。如果你爱某人,尊敬他/她,就要以行动表示!

　　5. Compatibility:If you are mad about the outdoors, can’t live without reality TV, are a screaming liberal, or abhor people who over-accessorize or don’t keep up on current events, then you probably wouldn’t want to hang out with…me, for example. Just because someone has good energy doesn’t mean you can do well together in real life. Watch what people DO, not only what they say. Make sure they match or you’ll be sadly disappointed, eventually bored, and even resentful. There are 7 billion people on the planet—check some more of them out and quit trying to make a person someone they are not!
　　5. 相容性:如果你疯狂热衷户外活动,离开了电视真人秀节目就活不下去,是一个彻头彻尾的自由主义者,厌恶别人打扮得过于花枝招展,讨厌别人对当前时事一无所知,那么你可能不会愿意同某些人在一起,比如说……我。就因为某人能力出众,并不意味着你们在现实生活中能和睦相处。要观察人们做些什么,而不仅仅是他们说些什么。确认他们和你是一路人,不然你就会相当失望,最后感到无趣甚至憎恶。在这个星球上生活着70亿人——多观察一些人,而且不要试图彻底改造别人!
　　
　　6. Compassion:Walked a mile in their shoes, have you? I recommend, before you think you know whatever you think you know about the person you say you love, one of the most loving acts of all: understand as much as you want to be understood. Old adage for a reason. “’Cause it’s a damn good one!”
　　6. 将心比心:要设身处地为他人着想,你能做到吗?我建议,在你对你说你爱的人自以为有多了解之前,最浓烈的表达爱意的行动之一就是:如同你有多么渴望被人了解一样,你应该多多去了解别人。这老话说得好。“因为它真是太好了!”
　
    7. Responsible communication:You get to choose from every word in the English language (or whatever language you share) in whatever tone you choose to communicate your thoughts and feelings to another, so choose carefully. You have no one to blame if you don’t tell the truth or say what you want. My teacher says, “We are always doing one of two things; creating separation or connection.” What is your intention?
　　7. 可靠的沟通:与他人交流想法、表达感受,不论要用何种语调,从英语语言(或者你使用的任何语言)中选择哪个字词,其决定权都在你手上,所以一定要谨慎选择。如果你没有说实话或者说明你想要什么,那你就不能责备任何人。我的一位老师说过:“我们总是在做着以下两件事之中的一件:形成隔阂或建立联系。”你打算怎么做呢?　　

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