Breaking up with someone you love can be traumatic because you lose "your person." Your boyfriend becomes like family and when your relationship ends, you go through a mourning process because you have essentially lost a part of your family. If you've recently gone through a break up keep reading for:

8 Steps to Move on from a Failed Relationship.

Get Your Ex Boyfriend Out of Your Life:

This is step #1 to getting over someone. You can't remain friends. The only way an ex couple can remain friends is if both parties are no longer in love with one another and let's face it, if that was the case, you wouldn't be reading this article. Breaking up means you need to stop talking to him and end all roads that lead to him. That includes taking his number out of your phone, de-friending him on Facebook, twitter, Google+, any other social media I missed and stop hanging out with his friends and family. No contact.

Purge Post Break Up:

You can't get over someone if everything reminds you of them. It's time to eliminate that trigger from your daily life. Get rid of everything in your home and work that reminds you of him. And I mean everything. Pictures, dried flowers, jewelry, clothing, stuffed animals, everything and anything that makes you think of him. If you don't want to throw it away, that's ok. Put it in a box (or many boxes) and keep it out of sight.

Stop Talking about Him:

After you've stopped talking to him and eliminated everything from your home and work that reminds you of him, it's time to stop thinking and talking about him. It's over and thinking and talking about it won't bring him back; it only makes you sad. Make a vow to not think or talk about him anymore and try to stick to it. Tell your girlfriends that if you bring him up they need to remind you of your vow. Every time you think about him shake your head and tell yourself "this isn't helping!"

Get Mad:

Anger is the second stage of grief and it's time to go there. You're never going to get over the break up until you make your way through those stages. Turn up your music really loudly and start screaming. Grab and pillow and hit the wall with it. Remember that box of stuff you put away? Maybe it's time to take some of it out and rip it to shreds or how about burning it? (safely).

Exercise:

Still mad? Exercise is a fantastic way to work that anger out. Fill up your iPod with angry chick music with a good beat and start sweating! This step is crucial for working out your anger but it's also for getting your into better shape. Nothing makes a woman feel better than when she knows she looks good! (and it will make Step 8 even easier).

Go Out with your Girlfriends:

After a break up, a lot of girls sit at home crying. No! You need a distraction and hanging out with your girlfriends is a great way to forget about your ex for a while. You must adhere to Step #3 - Don't talk about him! Going out is about dressing up, looking great, grabbing drinks and laughing. Don't let him ruin your girl's night out.

Find a Hobby or Volunteer:

The hardest times are going to be when you're alone, so find a hobby. One that gets you out of the house is even better! Do you like traveling? How about taking mini day trips to the sites near your home. There are a ton of sightseeing books in the library. How about volunteering? If you love animals, there are tons of animal organizations who need help. We've all heard about volunteering at soup kitchens. It's not only a thing people do in movies. They need help! Whatever you're interested in, jump in feet first.

Date Someone:

Emphasis on the word date. You're not looking for a boyfriend, you're looking for some compliments and making out. The easiest way to get over someone is to get under someone else. It's time to start looking. Try online dating or join a social networking group. Take your dog to the dog park. Don't have a dog? Volunteer to take a friends. There are plenty of singles roaming around; it's time to start flirting, going on some dates and start living your life again.