* Keep a journal
      Our lives are full of activity. I believe we do more in one day than our grandparents did in a week. Because of the increase in our activity there is a corresponding risk we will endure more failures.

      Keeping a journal and writing about this activity, especially the resulting failures, is a good way to keep track of everything that happens and expressing how a failure has impacted your life.

      When writing about your failures, there are two key questions to ask: (1) Why did this happen? (2) What good might come from it?

      Try not to rush your answers. Careful discernment can be enlightening and will lead to a better understanding of what can be learned, and avoided, the next time.

    * Acceptance
      Accepting failure is to be fully aware of the present moment without judgment or shame. Accepting failure is the best way to accept you a little more each day. There is a difference, however, between accepting failure and reconciling yourself to it.

      You don’t have to settle for failure, but by accepting failure when it happens, you are providing some needed grace and self-care. You are accepting yourself as being appropriately, and significantly, human.

    * Ask for help
      When we fail, we are not alone. Everybody fails.

      Because of this fact, we are eager to help others. We understand the feeling all too well. Our capacity to show compassion is a gift we don’t just give to the recipient, but we give to ourselves, too. Compassion provides a measure of comfort and hope. Everyone is invited to receive it.

      The next time you fall short of a goal or when a situation does not turn out as expected, understand there are others who understand exactly how you feel. Reach out to these people. Ask for help and then receive the love and support you deserve.

    * Find the nuggets
      Even in our darkest moments, there can be nuggets of goodness waiting to be discovered.
      There are many expressions, some clichés now, which illustrate this point:
          o It’s always darkest before the dawn.
          o What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger.
          o When God closes a door He opens a window.

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