Yes, their husbands may be having affairs but, if this isn't impinging on their marital lives, as long as their husbands are loving towards them, make them happy and play a supportive role in their lives, what is the point of tracking down a hunch? Yet, as I said, other women think I am mad. They check on their husbands constantly because they absolutely have to know.

It has all got so complicated! In my mother's day, men only really had affairs with either someone in the office or someone they met on a business trip.

Illicit communication was conducted through letters or phone calls, with the mistress hanging up when the wife answered. Nowadays, a man can be having an affair and it's almost impossible to find out.

This is why women have turned into detectives. I have one friend who, out of the blue, decided to open her husband's emails. She had never done this before. She told me she probably knew he was having an affair but had made the decision she didn't want to know.

But then, one day as, yet again, her husband was mysteriously 'late home from work', she opened his account and there were endless messages from his mistress.

'It was devastating,' she told me. 'Not just that he was having an affair but because of the things he'd written about me. He'd called me fat and boring. He said he didn't love me. It was excruciating.'

She and her husband split up and she is dating someone new - and she watches him like a hawk.

'I demand to know his passwords to everything.' she says. 'I scan his computer, pore over his text messages and missed calls.'

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She told me that he changed the password to his mobile phone the other day, saying he thought he was being hacked into. She told him she would ask him to leave if he didn't give her access to his phone right then and there.

But does her new partner do the same to her? Of course not. In fact, men generally don't. I can leave my mobile phone lying around and my husband would never dream of looking at it.

I think there are many reasons for this - women are far more suspicious about their men than men are about their women, which is odd because if men are having affairs they are (usually) having them with other women and not all of them can be single.

Yet the fact of an affair seems to obsess women. I was talking about this with a friend today. She found out her husband of ten years was being unfaithful.

She told me she never checked his emails, mobile or Facebook and then, one day, she found a receipt for a dinner for two in London. It was for a restaurant she had never been to with her husband.

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